I can only control my own life
A few weeks ago I had a reunion with some of my best friends from the military. I consider these guys to be brothers, but they have a traditional style of life. The life that someone reading this would probably shy away from. You know, the work 40 hours a week, live for the weekend, go on vacation a few times a year kind of life. This life is ok for those that want it. To some people comfort is the #1 priority, and that’s ok.
I can only control my life
When I first started to change my life for the better I would get frustrated all the time. My frustration came from seeing people doing all the wrong things. Watching too much T.V.
getting angry at the news, living for the weekend, hating monday, and a long list of other things. I would go to Wal-mart and just observe people, sucking down huge sodas that are killing their body, employees with broken backs because they devoted their whole life to a company that cared little for them, grocery carts full of boxed microwave crap. How can I help these people break this cycle I would ask myself, and then I finally realized:
They don’t want to break the cycle
Most do not even know they are in a cycle. At this point I realized it’s ok for everyone to do what makes them happy. The Round Life will be for those who have already made the decision that they want a better life for themselves, and those closest to them.
If you have not made this decision already, take my word for it. Your friends, and family do not want to be helped, they love what society has deemed “normal” Focus on you, and let them be happy as well.
Now let me tell you a story that came out of this trip with my friends.
We all went out to a local establishment to enjoy the afternoon. While we were at this establishment we encountered some friends of my friend who lived in the area. We all sat down, and the small talk commenced. I was the only single guy there, with three other couples. The small talk of couples was killing me, is this what people really talk about when they are together for a while? I am accustomed to talking and listening to conversations about real estate, building a great life, freedom, fitness, wealth, and here I am listening to chat about pets, work schedules, and other stuff I can’ even remember….my friends are really great people…but get me out of here 🙂
Anyways, fast forward through all that. the couple that we met there started talking about how they were selling a boat. One of my friends had some interest, so he asked why the boat was for sale. Can you guess the reason?
This poor guy was selling his boat because he works so much he cannot use it! Is that the most depressing thing or what. What kind of life do you have that you work so much that enjoying the boat you are working for can’t even be put on the schedule.
It really took everything to control myself, and not say something, because I am sure what I had to say would have not come out right.
Nobody at the table thinks there is anything wrong
With the exception of me, of course. Just writing about this makes me sad for the guy. Slaving away every day, for what? To go out to a winery on the weekend? To have an escape once a year to some far away place to forget the life where you work every day with no enjoyment? To drive a car you probably can’t afford, waking up every Sunday dreading the Monday that is coming next.
This is madness, but we have to let it go. This is what they accept in life. The good thing is it’s not what we have to accept. They can still be my friends, we just have different definitions of happiness. I can only hope that one day they will see what I am doing, and a lightbulb will click on, and they will ask, How can I do that?
Until then I can only worry about myself, and my life. I will continue to build an awesome integrated life that I do not need an escape from. Helping as many people as possible along the way. You will never hear me say that I hate Monday, or I need a vacation. Hopefully you feel the same way 🙂